Taking a Break from Infertility

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The last 5 years of my life have involved a lot of pregnancy and baby talk. Thomas and I decided, while we were engaged, that we would start talking seriously about having children after we'd been married at least a year.

Less than 4 months after the wedding we threw the idea of a year out the window and decided to just let it happen. And it didn't happen. At least not on our own.  Fast forward through multiple fertility treatments and lots of waiting. We finally had Lincoln. We were over the moon. Finally being parents was everything we'd imagined and more. Adding another child and a sibling for Lincoln came up from time to time. After Lincoln's first birthday we started the process again. This time with even more heartache. After years of infertility, I suddenly had no problems getting pregnant. Except this time I just couldn't keep them. And then Abbie Rae changed all of that.

Six pregnancies and two living children in five years. We are luckier than many. So much of my time, thoughts, emotions and (at times) every waking moment has been consumed with pregnancy and everything related to it. It is exhausting.

At this point I am so ready to close that first chapter of our lives as parents. We will definitely have other children join us in the future, but for now we will soak up our wonderful life as a family of four. I've loved transitioning from one to two children. Seeing Lincoln as a big brother has made my love grow for him even more. The the way Abbie Rae looks and smiles and chuckles at Lincoln lights up my world. Their love for each other will continue to grow and I am so excited to witness those moments. I finally gave Thomas his princess he has always dreamed about.

A huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I can enjoy these years even though they will go by way too quickly. I love everything about pregnancy and babies, but I am excited for this break. A sweet relief.















Miscarriage one.
Who You Would Have Been
Finding Happiness with Loss,
Why I'm Grateful for My Miscarriage

Miscarriage two.
Too Beautiful for Earth
Angel Baby: March 22, 2017
Baby March's Mums
"It's okay to sit by that door...it's not strange." 

Another round of failed fertility treatments and depression.
The Day I Yelled at the Worcestershire Sauce

In February of  2017 I was suddenly pregnant with Abbie Rae.

Miscarriage three. December 2017 (Abbie Rae's Irish twin)

Miscarriage four. January 2018





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